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Life in Joy and Joy in Life….

My life of late has shifted from the standard  time of a clock to that of an internal  means of keeping time.  Of course there are things that must be done at a certain hour of a certain day and so  I must maintain that structure to stay in sync with the world.    However,   I was feeling like a puppet on a string and that my relationship with Time needed to be calibrated  so that I could feel in charge of my life again.    This came about when we moved into this year of 2013.   From the start that I wanted to  stop  going forward in directions that gave away  any control over my time in my life.   Also,  I determined that I wanted to designate a label of Joy to this project  for the year.  So my word for the year is JOY.   Now I am  in the 3rd month of the year and this is  working out great.  My relationship with time has changed to  meet my new standard that requires  a joyful response to whatever I do.  Now if the  requirement is that I spend my time doing housework or  something mundane  then I must  place the emphases on the outcome  as I have traded my time  in for something  that will  give me Joy, such as the pleasure  I will get from my house being clean .     Learning to look at life from this new direction  has also provided  a less stressed feeling because my relationship with time is on an even keel  allowing me to  make  the choices necessary to get what I want out of life and not the opposite.   Please note that this is not always easy to do.   Choices  are difficult in life and if you must go see a someone you love who is sick or go to  the ceremony of someone who has died then  the choice is somewhat denied.   The key is to do something  joyful  to counter the negative nature of  that  occasion  and to put back a good energy  to draw from  in the future.  So,   for me  I can quilt, garden, cook  , call a friend  to talk about something important to them,  go see a movie,   do yoga , to name a few.    Otherwise ,   my spirit may  not use this time wisely  or  perhaps  it would waste  time on an emotion  that would carry me in to a sad place.     This sad place would  take some of my time from my life and I would not get it back.  This sad place would allow negative feelings  to take hold and go into other areas of my life eroding  any goodness.   So  I hope that you too can come to terms with your relationship of time as well.  Time can be a hard master and it can take your life from you   like a puzzle, piece by piece.   Give yourself something for every piece it takes from you and you will never feel cheated about all you must give.   I choose Joy.   Maybe you will too.

Wikipedia says:

Happiness is a mental or emotional state of well-being characterized by positive or pleasantemotions ranging from contentment to intense joy.[1] A variety of biologicalpsychological,religious, and philosophical approaches have striven to define happiness and identify its sources. Various research groups, including positive psychology, endeavor to apply the scientific method to answer questions about what “happiness” is, and how it might be attained.

Philosophers and religious thinkers often define happiness in terms of living a good life, or flourishing, rather than simply as an emotion. Happiness in this sense was used to translate the Greek Eudaimonia, and is still used in virtue ethicsHappiness economics suggests that measures of public happiness should be used to supplement more traditional economic measures when evaluating the success of public policy.

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Come my Friends

Soon,   there will be a departure of  friends from our town.  For a variety of reasons , it is time for people to  go to another place to live.  Some will go to be closer to their   family, and some will go to an  area that will work better  for them now.   Whatever the case,  this adjustment requires that the heart  and  emotion that goes into  getting to know someone will need  a  reset.     As happy as we are for others who follow their dreams, we will sincerely miss them,  and see the holes that are left behind.   It is difficult to access  how much someone is in the fabric of  your life until they have moved away,  and then you find that the memories will come to the forefront and fill the spaces.    Relationships  that are  flexible to life have  a growth factor built into them and can remain  current over time.   Those friends that I have known in another time of my life still work and I can catch up with a phone call of what is happening today.   The social media  of Facebook and the like,  provides a great  source for keeping current with friends and family that move out of the circle of  your  life and it is wonderful to have this tool  of sharing the everyday.    Well,  we will celebrate their new path and gather our moments gone by , and  truly remain grateful for each soul that has come our way.   Each of us has given   the other something through the exchange of friendship.    So,  whatever  that something is that I have found with you my friend,  I am pleased to have known you and will continue to be so.